Merry Christmas from the Tredways!

Posted on Nov 18, 2013 at 9:22 AM in Family, Foster Care, Holidays

I had a Christmas card all picked out and waiting for order in an online shopping cart. Our family of three, cracking up and being super silly at Disneyland last summer. I don’t know what kept me from pulling the trigger, but I didn’t order it.

And now that card doesn’t feel fitting.

Our family looks a little different today than it did three weeks and two days ago. We are still the Tredway Three in legal terms. We are still the Tredway Three in history and in permanency. But something else is going on that makes it, well, odd to send out a card with the three of us featured. We are the Tredway Five right now.

There are five seat belts in our car that get used every time we venture out as a family. Thank goodness for the larger sized sedan we purchased last July—we can just barely fit two carseats and a 9 year old in the back seat. There are five place settings at the table every time we eat a meal. Three normal size forks and two preschool-sized ones. Three Fiestaware plates and two Spiderman bowls. There are potty seats haphazardly tossed next to two toilets in the house. Boxes of diapers trip me as I walk into my office and piles of boy pajamas sit in the previously all-girl-all-the-time bathroom upstairs. Our house is again filled with blocks and board books, little puzzles and farm sets. An often grabbed-for Febreze has a twin upstairs in our vain attempts to mask the odors that come alongside diapered toddlers, and we’re still getting the rhythm of what goes in the indoor garbage can versus the outdoor garbage can.

Two precious faces have been entrusted to our care. For how long, we do not know.

Jeremy and I are Mommy and Daddy to two extra little people who already have a Mommy and Daddy. We drive home each evening to pronouncements of, “Here we are! We’re home!” and we say, “Yes! We’re home!” Because what else is this place if not home? Here you are safe, we say. You are fed, bathed, hugged, snuggled, disciplined, sung over, prayed over and loved in a million different ways. For however long you are here, this is your home.

So you see my predicament in blithely mailing out a Christmas card with three goofy (or Goofy) Tredways on the front. We are still those people, and yet we are not those people at all. For now, for this season, there are five of us. For better or for worse, the Tredway Five.

Pssst… Wanna see our Disney pic? Of course you do. I LOVE this shot. Makes me all happy inside.

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8 Comments

  1. Alli Nov 18, 2013 12:01 PM

    Ok- here is where I would put my awesome Microsoft Paint skills to work and draw in some smiling stick figures. And then somewhere I would add a note about the family additions. I like the idea of including them in some way, because they obviously are a part of your family. The quirkiness of the drawings would just add to the quirkiness of the photo above (which I love). You probably weren’t asking for advice in any way, but there it is.

  2. Alli Nov 18, 2013 12:07 PM

    I found the blog post where I did it. http://crumleyblog.com/2009/01/26/new-family-pictures/

  3. Rebecca Nov 18, 2013 12:16 PM

    Ha! I LOVE that idea, Alli!

  4. Hope Nov 18, 2013 1:20 PM

    This post made me weep. Yup today you are the Tredway five. Can’t ignore that- and you aren’t-you are embracing it! Praying for those five souls today and all that’s hoped for for them. Love the picture, but its not the Christmas card for this year:)

  5. Regular Reticent Reader Nov 18, 2013 6:09 PM

    Love the post. Love the family at any size. But, we definitely have different definitions for cracking up and being super silly. More importantly, may God bless you greatly for so generously sharing your lives with His children.

  6. Rebecca Nov 19, 2013 8:27 AM

    I have these moments of crazy where one of the children is pooping and another is yelling for help and another is banging his spoon against his cereal boy and then I read your encouraging words and know you are praying and then… I can breathe again. Keep praying. And praying. And praying some more.

  7. Cayla Nov 19, 2013 10:36 PM

    Speaking of Christmas…I’m getting excited for December Photo Project and have been wondering: might there be an instagram tag to connect with other instagramming participants this year? :)

  8. Rebecca Nov 25, 2013 10:17 AM

    Yes’m, Cayla!

    #dpp2013

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