How can it be September already? And where did August go? The calendar says today is September 1 and I’m having a hard time believing it’s true! Perhaps if August repeated itself I’d feel more prepared for the fall.
Being a stay-at-home mom and an ESFJ, there are some days when I run to the computer for conversation and community. Blogs and emails can only provide so much stimulation and I know I’m in trouble when I’m hanging on to every last comment dropped into Blogland. Don’t get me wrong—I love blogging. It’s just that sometimes I have a hard time tuning out others’ voices in order to find my own. Thus begins my self-imposed retreat from blogging. I’m heading out of town shortly and will be delightfully disconnected from the internet. I intend to enjoy every minute of my little unplugged vacation and I vow to try very hard to not wonder about the messages in my overflowing email account.
In the meantime, thanks for making Blogland fun for me. I enjoy reading everyone else’s blogs. I love writing my own. I appreciate all the comments left here. The dialogue from the last post continues—it has certainly brought new and mysterious folk out of the woodwork and provoked them to comment. Thanks, all!
14 Comments
mrscrumley Sep 1, 2004 11:24 AM
I don’t know, so don’t giggle or anything, but what is an ESFJ?
Rebecca Sep 1, 2004 11:31 AM
Sorry… I’m a little Myers-Briggs obsessed and forget that other people may not be! It’s a personality profile: E – Extroverted, S – Sensing, F – Feeling, J – Judging.
The one word descriptions don’t necessarily make sense. To take the test, go here: http://www.humanmetrics.com/#Jtype and take the Jung typology test. To read more about the personality types, go to this site: http://www.personalitypage.com/. Truthfully, understanding personality types is one of the best things we’ve done for our marriage!
Rubykate Sep 1, 2004 5:34 PM
I’m an ISFP (I think that’s right), but in self in society 1 I was an ISFJ…..that was almost 7 yrs ago. I love personality tests. I guess you are an E after all.
mrscrumley Sep 2, 2004 2:30 PM
Oops. You can giggle now. I am aware of the Myers-Briggs and I have done it before, but I forgot my results. I have them somewhere in my house, probably the attic.
Jeremy Sep 2, 2004 4:06 PM
I second Rebecca’s comment about personality typing and it’s benefits for marriage. When we realized that we were *exact* opposites (ESFJ v. INTP), it was akin to a light being turned on in a dark room—many things concerning our behavior became clear. Consequently, our marriage became more joyful. While it’s not the end-all answer to a happy marriage, it is undeniably helpful.
Jeremy Sep 2, 2004 5:13 PM
I suppose I should clarify that my results sometimes waver between INTP and INTJ. I wrote a little blurb on it last year if anyone’s interested.
http://www.tredways.org/joys/intj-intp.htm
andrew Sep 3, 2004 1:47 PM
i took the test as honestly as i believe i am able to, however, i’m sure on some inner level i was deceiving myself — i’m an ENTJ. My strength of preferences, respectively, were 33%, 44%, 1%, and 22%. i’m not totally sure what this means yet, but i’m guessing that’s it’s not really news to anyone.
Jeremy Sep 3, 2004 2:28 PM
Drew, I had been wondering what your T-F preference would be—very interesting. I’ve always thought you showed strong tendencies for both. It’ll be interesting to see if you flip-flop or favor one as time progresses. The EN was almost a sure lock, but the J was an unknown—although, maybe not too surprising considering your sister’s preference.
Jeremy Sep 3, 2004 2:50 PM
One other thing, I suspect your dad would score similar to you. Most probable would be the N and J, with the E not too far behind—though, he might prefer it less than you. I would also guess that he favors the T, and probably a little more than you do. It’s just a guess, though, because I would have guessed that you favored the F, if only slightly.
Hey, David, are you reading this? Any thoughts?
jacinda Sep 3, 2004 3:47 PM
Although currently an ENFJ, this is the first time I’ve ever scored as an “E.” I have in the past usually tested out to be an INFJ, but have also been ISFJ and INTJ. I think that the “E” is finally coming out because I’m being treated for social anxiety. :P It’s interesting to see how it changes. That, and, I always hated taking those tests because sometimes the options available don’t represent how you really are.
charity Sep 7, 2004 8:34 AM
drew, i would have guessed entp or enfp, just because you highly value your relationships. but can see then entj too. :)
andrew Sep 7, 2004 2:28 PM
andrew’s view of previous comments:
i see myself as more of a jkwn or perhaps a yteq. i used to demonstrate more of the ‘j’ quality before my surgery, but my world has changed since then. i’m so argumentative that i can really understand why i don’t get along with more vhgn’s or vhgm’s, but i also realize that the ‘oc’ combo can be a real killer when living with a ‘pw’. slowly but surely i can see myself transitioning to the zrol.
it’s a different langauge.
Rebecca Sep 7, 2004 3:21 PM
i’m reminded how much i hated it when a myers-briggs lover would characterize me by four little letters. i felt very boxed in. BUT the letters don’t box you in at all if they’re used to help you understand yourself (and your friends) just a bit better.
dan Feb 11, 2005 4:43 PM
When mates are diametrical opposites (an ESP and INF pair for example or a ISJ and ENT pair) with different styles of implementing their goals, and without the common ground of a similar focus of language, each can feel like a stranger in a strange land, and bridging the gulf can present serious, lasting problems. These are called “toxic relationships.”
http://209.15.29.56/myersbriggs/mating.htm
are you still married?